They want to know how youre doing, if youre thriving post-breakup, or if maybe part of you misses them, too. Its possible they want you back but are just too scared to reach out, so theyre trying to put some feelers out there by talking to your friends.

Why do exs reach out?

And if you were the one to break things off, your ex could be reaching out in order to get some closure. “If they felt the split was abrupt, confusing or left them with unresolved feelings, an ex might reach out to gain clarity,” therapist Anna Poss said.