In summary, during an initial herpes outbreak (or any herpes outbreak) you should avoid all sexual activity. If you have an oral herpes infection, you should also avoid kissing your partner, as well as sharing glasses and utensils. Focus on treating the outbreak — once its healed, you can refocus on your sex life.

Is it possible to sleep with someone with herpes and not get it?

Yes. Herpes can be passed on even if a partner has no sores or other signs and symptoms of an outbreak. And if a partner has a herpes outbreak, its even more likely to be spread. Even when a person doesnt have visible sores, the only surefire way to protect against getting genital herpes is abstinence.